Caring for Elderly Parents

From One Generation to Another

Now is often the time that we also find our roles and relationships changing with our own parents and you could find yourself acting as a new carer in many ways.

The role of a caregiver can bring with it  heavy responsibilities. While it can be rewarding, it can also be exhausting. You want to avoid burnout, so how can you do that?

Caregiving is not your only purpose.

Don't let taking care of your parents or siblings take over your life. You have to look after yourself, and thus, the only way to avoid burnout, something many caregivers experience, is to make sure you are looking after your physical and mental health, too.

Watch your finances closely and budget accordingly

While some can leave their jobs to become full-time caregivers, many cannot afford this. Check if you are eligible for government assistance or other financial support.

Finding appropriate resources

It is also important to find supportive resources that could benefit you and your parents. Talk to Age UK, who can advise on what you are entitled to and the benefits thresholds.

According to Age UK, you are entitled to a free carer's assessment from your local council. The council will then decide what help they can offer, for example, a carer's personal budget to help you with your caring role.

Get help. Caregiving is not a one-woman job.

Trying to do it alone can cause overwhelm, burnout, and stress. There are both private and government-run services that can provide assistance, ranging from housework and preparation of meals to transportation and shopping.

Private home care comes at a cost. If affordable, however, it also brings peace of mind that trained carers are there for those you love.

Ask and accept!

Ask, and you will receive, as the old adage goes. But do you do either? There may be reasons you don't ask. Perhaps you're a little proud or don't want to bother someone else. The fact that we have always done everything on our own, as was expected for many of us, is also still firmly instilled in our minds.

We can become very protective over our ageing parents – even to the point of becoming a control freak. If you weren't one already, caregiving can undoubtedly turn you into one. It's like no one can give the same quality of care that you can. This side effect of caregiving becomes a monster, however, when your own health is affected. Let people help.